Advice From Twitter for Girlfriends Who Ask, Am I the Other Woman?

How can you tell if your man is cheating on you? That’s what Side Chick Awareness is all about. The answers given by Twitter users are mainly funny, sometimes angry, and sometimes sad.

All of the fears about infidelity – getting caught, being cheated on, being the “other woman” without knowing it, or having an unfaithful husband – are serious and painful. But comedians have known for centuries that there’s also a funny side to the situation. It makes great material for Twitter.com, a social networking website where people publicly exchange messages of up to 140 characters long.

What Women Say About Being the Other Woman

The main theme of what Twitter users identify as #sidechickawareness is secrecy on the man’s part. He clearly doesn’t want anyone to know he has more than one woman in his life. Some of the Twitter posters are fully Side Chick Aware, but others need lessons, so people have been giving each other many helpful hints.

In these quotes from Twitter, some of the language has been edited to make it more readable and in a few cases, less likely to offend. On Twitter, the @ symbol is used before a person’s screen name and the # symbol helps with indexing. People can search the site for #sidechickawareness and instantly find all the related posts that contain it.

Some clues from other women to know if you are a side chick:

@skhan813: “homeboy makes you drop off food for him but it ends up looking like a drug deal #sidechickawareness”

@PiNKissableLiPS: “#sidechickawareness is when your phone calls get ignored cause he be with wifey.”

@IamSpectacular: “#sidechickawareness if you find an empty condom box, and yall don’t even use condoms.”

It’s possible that the Side Chick’s relationship could be as intense as the man’s marriage (to the Main). Both these posts suggest some family ties.

@pjsocomplicated quoting @B_McQ quoting @LadyE8806: “#sidechickawareness… Just cuz you have a baby by him does NOT make u the main!”

@tdothoney: “#sidechickawareness His kid callin me Mommy by accident.”

What Women Say About Men Who Have a Side Chick

Opinions, almost all from women, suggest that the Main can be either fearful and worried about whether there is a Side Chick, or the Main can confidently assume there is but that the Side Chick isn’t a threat.

Example of a Main who thinks Side Chicks are going to be the ultimate losers:

@LOcourtVE: “Lesson to women who prey on married men. 75% stay with their wives. Find someone else!!!<#sidechickawareness”.

What Men Say About Their Side Chicks

The men in the #sidechickawareness discussion are mainly putting forward the cool dude image and treating the whole angst-ridden “is he cheating on me” question like a game. Much of this is written in the ironic tone typical of Twitter, for example:

@JeffreyRipper: “Edamame is my #sidechick. She has #sidechickawarenss and knows how to stay in her lane.”

@MaggDaddy: “If I bring you to the house and I tell you, ‘Just run downstairs I’ll be there in a minute’, you need #sidechickawareness.”

Approaching Twitter more analytically and assessing the social commentary made by the whole #sidechickawareness discussion, is this post:

@hjules: “Only on twitter or only in today’s world will WOMAN tell off the mistresses for not having #sidechickawareness. Strange.”

What Everyone Says About Tiger Woods

A polite translation of the commentary on Tiger Woods is that he would have been unwise to phone his alleged girlfriend and leave an incriminating voice mail, a recording of which (it is claimed) has been widely published. Here’s how one man summed up the common opinion:

@DCruz215: “U like the only [man] on the EARTH named Tiger. Aint u supposed to try and hide [extra-marital affairs]? Don’t use your real name! #sidechickawareness”

Whether he had an affair or not, and whether the phone message is authentic or not, the Tiger Woods story and all the rumours around it are going to be a footnote in sports history before long, but the phenomenon of marital infidelity will never end. Sociologists of the future will have plenty of information about early twenty-first century dating and marriage if they choose to look up and analyze #sidechickawareness.