Using a Compliment to Open a Conversation and Get a Date

At first glance, complimenting a woman to make her feel good seems simple: every woman likes compliments and a lot of men use them instinctively as opening lines. Where they tend to slip up is in complimenting the wrong thing or over-complimenting.

It’s not always wise to compliment a woman on something that’s outside her control – particularly her looks. Firstly, she’s almost certainly had lots of other men compliment her on the same feature and your comment will see you immediately labelled as predictable and unimaginative – which doesn’t raise the chances you’ll get a date. Secondly, you’re ignoring all the effort she’s no doubt made that evening. So compliment her on things she can control – her hair style, her dress, her jewellery or something she’s doing.

Do compliments of the right kind always work? Not according to everyone. Some of the self-styled ‘pick-up artists’ who specialize in seduction believe that beautiful women are complimented so often that they get used to it – they expect it, and even look down on those who do it. Their view is that these women need to have their perspectives reset for the approach to work – essentially ‘taking them down a peg’ by paying them a ‘negative compliment’ or mild insult. They even have a term for this: ‘negging’ – and it forms a key part of the technique known as the Mystery Method, developed by pick-up artist legend ‘Mystery’.

Whether you subscribe to this view or not, it’s certainly true that it’s possible to spoil your chances by so over-complimenting a woman that she views you as either a creep or someone with low self-esteem. Compliments need to be flattering but honest and delivered casually – remember, you’re just stating a fact. How you compliment a woman determines to some extent how she sees you. The compliment will make her feel good, but it’ll also tell her what sort of things you notice, the fact you’re confident enough to speak to her and that you consider yourself worthy of having an opinion. In many ways how you deliver the compliment and the fact that you’re doing it is more important than what you actually say. Practice with a friend or through one of adult phone chat lines when you could chat with someone in real time.

What should you pick to compliment her on? Ideally, you need to pick out the thing she’s spent time on, the thing that other men probably won’t notice (they’ll be too busy commenting on her breasts, her legs, her eyes). Ask yourself what makes her different – remember, it doesn’t have to be something physical. The way she dances, even the way she laughs can make her unique. The reaction you’re trying to elicit is pleasant surprise – she wasn’t expecting anyone to notice, but she’s glad someone did.

As with any dating technique, practice will help. Get into the habit of noticing things – ask yourself: what would you compliment that woman on, if you wanted to make her feel good? Then start actually doing it – even if it’s just in passing. Even if you don’t get a date, you’ll brighten up a few women’s days!

Dating Married Men: Why Some Single Women Do It

Some single women are attracted to men who should be unavailable to them. They purposely seek out relationships with men who already have a spouse. Why do some single women enjoy dating or pursuing married men?

He’s Willing to Commit

It may seem strange, but being able to commit is an attractive trait in a married man to some single women. They like the assurance that the man they are involved with isn’t afraid of matrimony or a long-term relationship.

Unfortunately, they’re missing the big picture.

He’s also willing to step away from his commitment when given the opportunity. It may seem like a plus to know he’s willing to make things permanent. But how long will his permanent be?

Don’t be surprised that he didn’t literally mean “til death do us part” during the wedding vows he shares with you either.

The Challenge of Winning His Affections

Nothing gets some women going like being told they can’t have something. Mother Eve got us started way back in the Garden of Eden. What bigger challenge is there than to take the affections of a man away from another woman?

The problems usually begin once the “prize” from the challenge is taken home. Enjoying cleaning up the clothes that never quite make it into the hamper, ladies? How about his sudden memory lapse concerning the promises he made concerning your future together? And are you beginning to suspect he really isn’t working late every Friday night (like he told his wife while sneaking around with you)?

The thing about challenges is: once they’re over was all the effort really worth it? Did you really win something of value? Or, is that brass ring beginning to look a little tarnished already?

He Isn’t Happy With His Wife

He’s miserable in his marriage. His wife’s a shrew who doesn’t understand him. Of course, your information is coming from a most reliable source. If he says he’s unhappy, clearly it’s the truth. If he says she’s the reason for it, what more do you need to hear? Why on earth would your married boyfriend lie to you?

Just remember, if you’re lucky enough to become his next missus, your singular goal and mission in life is to make him utterly, deliriously, and supremely happy.

That way, he’ll never have any reason to tell the “truth” to another woman about you.

He Loves Me

The day he uttered those three little words, that settled it. Love conquered all.

You didn’t intend to fall in love. Yes, you knew he was married, but you never intended to take someone’s husband and father away. It wasn’t planned. It just happened.

In a few years don’t be surprised if, or should we say when, your sweetie gets bitten by the love bug again. After all, just like you couldn’t control falling in love with him, neither will his latest love.

He’s just a loveable guy. He has a big heart and he enjoys sharing it.

Many single women find themselves attracted to married men. They find lots of reasons to justify having a relationship with someone who already has a legal and moral commitment to another.

Warning to Single Women About Married Men

Many enjoy the element of danger and intrigue in having a forbidden relationship. Some women believe they are with someone whose marriage would have ended with or without their involvement sooner or later.

However, single women who enter into alliances with married men need to remember one thing: most relationships built on a foundation of lies and deceit will usually topple. Research shows more than 70% of all marriages end due to infidelity or cheating allegations.

Yes, your relationship might be the one which defies the odds. Your marriage may even be the exception to the rule. However, don’t be dismayed, if statistically – you aren’t.