Easy Way to Fix a Dark Photo for Online Dating

Divorced men and women seldom have a good photograph to use for match.com or other online dating sites. Here is an easy way to touch up a dark picture using Adobe Photoshop Elements software.

Online Photo

When people get divorced, they may not have many pictures to use for an online dating profile. Why is this?

  • Married people would rather take photos of kids or grandkids, instead of having photos taken of themselves.
  • Married people are older and don’t like to have their pictures taken.
  • Married people don’t get out and have fun like they did when they were young and single, so they have fewer vacation-style photos.

If a man or woman can dig up a halfway decent photo where he or she has a dark face due to shadows or underexposure, it is easy to retouch the image so it’s good enough for an upload.

Adobe Photoshop Elements

Adobe Photoshop Elements software can be used to lighten a dark face fairly quickly. It is very easy to do.

People who don’t have access to Adobe photo software can download Adobe Photoshop Elements (or another type of photo editing software) for a free 30-day trial. Another way to fix a photo is to go to a FedEx Office store (formerly Kinko’s) and rent a computer workstation with Photoshop.

Photo Retouching

Put the dark photo on the computer desktop. (If using FedEx or a friend’s computer, just email the picture to one’s own email account, so it can be downloaded on the other computer.)

The very first step is to make a copy of the photo. Right click on the photo icon (on the desktop) and choose copy. Go to an empty space on the computer desktop and right click, again, then choose paste. Now there is a copy of the dark photo for backup.

Open Photoshop Elements

The easiest way to get the dark photo into Photoshop Elements software is to:

  • Double click on one of the photo icons. This will bring up the photo in Windows Photo Gallery (or another photo program if on Mac).
  • Right click on this large picture and choose: Open With > Adobe Photoshop Elements (Editor).

(The author is using Photoshop Elements 7, but other versions should use the same sequence.)

Lighten Photo

There are many ways to lighten a photo in Photoshop, but here is one of the quickest ways.

  • At the top taskbar choose Enhance > Adjust Lighting > Brightness/Contrast. A pop-up box will appear.
  • Slide “Brightness” to the right. (The blue hat example below needed +72, but all shots will vary.)
  • Slide “Contrast” to the right. (The blue hat example only needed +30.)
  • Click OK.
  • Every photo will require different numbers for enhancement.

Sometimes this is all a person needs to do. However, it is possible to get better results by using a few more steps. Go to the top taskbar again.

  • Click on Enhance > Adjust Color > Adjust Color for Skin Tone.
  • The cursor will turn into an eyedropper.
  • Click the eyedropper on a neutral area of skin and the face in the photo will (usually) change to a healthier-looking color.

It sometimes takes a few tries (clicking on different parts of the face or arm) to get a color that is neither too gray nor too yellow. If the “skin” changes to a weird color, click “Reset” and click the eyedropper on a different area.

Save the photo when satisfied.

Sharpen Photo

To get a sharper photo, try these steps:

  • Click on Enhance > Adjust Lighting > Shadows/Highlights.
  • To sharpen the detail a bit, slide “Midtone Contrast” to the right. (The blue hat example needed +19.)

Now, save it as a JPEG file and that’s it. The photograph will never be as good as a photo taken with proper lighting, and would be terribly grainy in an album. However, the photo will be good enough to use for an online dating site.

Radiometric Dates for Neanderthals in the Levantine

Neanderthals are one of the best known species in the human lineage. Researchers have been investigating the biological and behavioral characteristics of Homo neanderthalensis for nearly 150 years, beginning with its discovery in the mid 1800s. Since then, more than 400 fossil remains of Neanderthals have been recovered.

The stone tools produced by Neanderthals are described as the Mousterian Industry or the Middle Palaeolithic. These lithic assemblages are characterized by Mode 3 technology, or the careful preparation of core surfaces so that large, symmetrical flakes could be produced. These flakes were sometimes shaped into specific forms for cutting, scraping, and other actions on meat, hide, and vegetal matter. Some of these flakes were also hafted onto spear tips for hunting.

Full Homo neanderthalensis morphological traits are characteristic of specimens in Europe and Asia 135 ka, but specimens dating back to 350 ka exhibit some of the traits characteristics of later Neanderthals. The last Neanderthals lived in Western Europe about 30 ka. Researchers believe that they were displaced and forced into extinction by a number of factors including climate change and competition with new human migrants. Neanderthals and humans may have coexisted in the Levant region for thousands of years, however.

Tabun Cave Provides an Important context for Dating Neanderthal Occupation in West Asia

Tabun Cave is located on Mt. Carmel, Israel, where numerous caves yielding Neanderthal fossils and archaeological remains have been investigated. Tabun Cave preserves a long archaeological sequence that documents technological change from Acheulean times through to the Upper Mousterian and has long been used as a point of reference for relative dating of Levantine palaeolithic sites. The Levant is an important geographical area because it represents the junction of Africa, Asia, and Europe.

The archaeological sequence from top to bottom, its technological characteristics, and a summary of some recent absolute dating analyses from Tabun Cave are summarized here:

Tabun B -Middle Palaeolithic, Upper Mousterian, Broad Levallois points and narrow flakes obtained by unidirectional removal, U-series/ESR date: 104 (+33-18) thousand years ago (ka), Neanderthal Specimen C1 recovered from this unit

Tabun C -Middle Palaeolithic, Lower Levalloiso-Mousterian, Oval shaped radial Levallois flakes, no points, U-series/ESR date: upper levels 135 (+60-30) ky, lower levels 222±27 ka , 196±21 ka, TL date: 165±16 ka

Tabun D -Middle Palaeolithic, Lower Levalloiso-Mousterian, Prismatic ‘Amudian’ blades, scrapers, elongated unidirectional Levallois points, U-series/ESR date: 143(+41-28) ka, TL date: 256±26 ka

Tabun E -Lower Palaeolithic, Acheulo-Yabrudian, Thick ‘Yabrudian’ scrapers common, some levels have handaxes and blades, U-series/ESR date: 208(+102-144) ka, TL dates: 264±28 ka, 324±31 ka, 302±27 ka

Tabun F -Lower Palaeolithic, Late Acheulean

Tabun G -Lower Palaeolithic,Tayacian

Dating the Appearance of the Middle Palaeolithic and Neanderthal Occupation in the Levant

Tabun Cave has the potential to inform palaeoanthropologists of the timing for the appearance of the Middle Palaeolithic in the Levant. Tabun D represents the earliest Middle Palaeolithic occupation at Tabun, and unfortunately, absolute dates for Tabun D are inconsistent.

In 2000, Grün and Stringer reported an early uptake (EU) U-series date of 133±13 ka, a linear uptake (LU) U-series date of 203±26 ka, and a combined US/ESR date of 143 (+41-28) ka.

Thermoluminescence dates of burnt flints from Tabun are 256±26 ka; more than a one hundred thousand year discrepancy with the above U-series dates. Some researchers argue that other Levantine sites that document the Lower to Middle Paleolithic boundary seem to converge at an age of roughly 215±30 ka.

Dating the end of the Middle Palaeolithic and the extinction of Neanderthals in the Levant

The upper limit of the Middle Paleolithic occupation of Tabun Cave is even more controversial. The Neanderthal hominid C1 was recovered near the top of the Tabun sequence, either layer B or C. U-series dates conducted in the late 90s by Schwarz and others gave a date of 34±5 ka for the C1 mandible and 33±4 ka for the C1 femur. This date has been questioned. If it were correct, it would mean that the specimen is one of the youngest Neanderthals known and that Neanderthals inhabited the Levant until 30 ka, opposed to the prevalent view that Neanderthals became restricted to pockets of Western Europe at the end of their existence before going extinct about 30 ka.

In contrast to Schwarz’s analysis, however, Grun and Stringer report LU U-series dates of faunal samples from Layer B that give an estimate 122±16 ka for the C1 skeleton.

There is Lots of Potential for Further Research on the Origins and Evolution of Neanderthals

Despite being the most well known species of hominin to date, there are still many questions about the detailed timeline of Neanderthal occupation in West Asia. The archaeology of Tabun Cave and the Levantine in general harbors great potential for understanding the origins and extinction of Neanderthals as absolute dating techniques are refined.

A number of questions remain: how are the Mousterian-using Neanderthals of Tabun Cave related to the Lower Palaeolithic (Acheulean) toolmakers of earlier occupations? What is the relationship between the biological changes that characterize the appearance of Neanderthals and the technological changes that characterize the appearance of Middle Palaeolithic industries? How old is the first Middle Palaeolithic industry at Tabun Cave? How old is the last Middle Palaeolithic industry and the C1 Neanderthal specimen at Tabun?

Using a Compliment to Open a Conversation and Get a Date

At first glance, complimenting a woman to make her feel good seems simple: every woman likes compliments and a lot of men use them instinctively as opening lines. Where they tend to slip up is in complimenting the wrong thing or over-complimenting.

It’s not always wise to compliment a woman on something that’s outside her control – particularly her looks. Firstly, she’s almost certainly had lots of other men compliment her on the same feature and your comment will see you immediately labelled as predictable and unimaginative – which doesn’t raise the chances you’ll get a date. Secondly, you’re ignoring all the effort she’s no doubt made that evening. So compliment her on things she can control – her hair style, her dress, her jewellery or something she’s doing.

Do compliments of the right kind always work? Not according to everyone. Some of the self-styled ‘pick-up artists’ who specialize in seduction believe that beautiful women are complimented so often that they get used to it – they expect it, and even look down on those who do it. Their view is that these women need to have their perspectives reset for the approach to work – essentially ‘taking them down a peg’ by paying them a ‘negative compliment’ or mild insult. They even have a term for this: ‘negging’ – and it forms a key part of the technique known as the Mystery Method, developed by pick-up artist legend ‘Mystery’.

Whether you subscribe to this view or not, it’s certainly true that it’s possible to spoil your chances by so over-complimenting a woman that she views you as either a creep or someone with low self-esteem. Compliments need to be flattering but honest and delivered casually – remember, you’re just stating a fact. How you compliment a woman determines to some extent how she sees you. The compliment will make her feel good, but it’ll also tell her what sort of things you notice, the fact you’re confident enough to speak to her and that you consider yourself worthy of having an opinion. In many ways how you deliver the compliment and the fact that you’re doing it is more important than what you actually say. Practice with a friend or through one of adult phone chat lines when you could chat with someone in real time.

What should you pick to compliment her on? Ideally, you need to pick out the thing she’s spent time on, the thing that other men probably won’t notice (they’ll be too busy commenting on her breasts, her legs, her eyes). Ask yourself what makes her different – remember, it doesn’t have to be something physical. The way she dances, even the way she laughs can make her unique. The reaction you’re trying to elicit is pleasant surprise – she wasn’t expecting anyone to notice, but she’s glad someone did.

As with any dating technique, practice will help. Get into the habit of noticing things – ask yourself: what would you compliment that woman on, if you wanted to make her feel good? Then start actually doing it – even if it’s just in passing. Even if you don’t get a date, you’ll brighten up a few women’s days!

Dating Tips for Single Women

The time of praising women’s virtues is long gone. If you are a nice, understanding and compassionate woman who is willing to compromise her well-being for the sake of pleasing others, this is the time to change. The present dating scene requires new rules and outlook on what really means to be a single woman. In her book, Why Men Love Bitches (Adams Media), Sherry Argov exposes the limitations of being nice and gives women practical tips for empowering themselves.

Men are visual creatures

When women dress for a night out, they often wonder what to wear. Despite the season or the occasion, single women’s primary focus is on how to look sexy and appealing for men. However, the seductive dress that you will wear does not guarantee attracting potential date candidates.

There are apparently two types of men – the ones that like to stare at the upper body of the woman, namely at her breasts, and those who like the shape of a woman’s bum. Therefore, when dressing up, try to emphasize the areas which you are proud of regardless of the current trends and fashion. Wear something that makes you feel sexy.

Single women’s top-secret weapon

Men’s primal stimulus is their sexual drive. However, men often share that they are attracted to a woman who is resisting their courtship. The higher the mystery aura around a woman, the better chance she has for men to want to get to know her better. Furthermore, the top-secret weapon of woman is to give misleading signals about her availability. When going on a date, try not to share all your secrets. The more a man wonders if he will get lucky, the harder he tries.

You might be single, but not desperate

Being single is a gift. Until you see the singleness as a burden and reason for desperation, you will not be able to enjoy its benefits. Instead of focusing on the negatives of being alone, try to use the time to have fun, work harder at your dream career goals or your favorite hobby. Being single defines you as an independent woman who can take care of herself. You should be proud of what you have achieved and reward yourself for all the energy and time you have spent on others. Start seeing singleness as a “me” time and you will attract men who appreciate you for who you are.

When dating, do not give all your energy to the potential partner. No one is worth having you all for himself. Remember to keep your distance in the beginning until you get to know that person better.

While single, try to use your time to define what you really want in a man. If you are in your 20s, there is a chance that you might just want to have fun, which is just the way it should be. However, if you have passed your 30s, your expectations are much higher. Even though it is good to know what you want, setting up high expectation might prevent you from enjoying the moment and dismiss potential candidates. In a survey conducted by Cosmopolitan magazine, which results are outlined in the article “Cosmo’s Men Summit: What Do Men Want?”, 60% of men agree that women’s expectations are unrealistic. Looking for the perfect man is an illusion that only leads to disappointments.

Dating Married Men: Why Some Single Women Do It

Some single women are attracted to men who should be unavailable to them. They purposely seek out relationships with men who already have a spouse. Why do some single women enjoy dating or pursuing married men?

He’s Willing to Commit

It may seem strange, but being able to commit is an attractive trait in a married man to some single women. They like the assurance that the man they are involved with isn’t afraid of matrimony or a long-term relationship.

Unfortunately, they’re missing the big picture.

He’s also willing to step away from his commitment when given the opportunity. It may seem like a plus to know he’s willing to make things permanent. But how long will his permanent be?

Don’t be surprised that he didn’t literally mean “til death do us part” during the wedding vows he shares with you either.

The Challenge of Winning His Affections

Nothing gets some women going like being told they can’t have something. Mother Eve got us started way back in the Garden of Eden. What bigger challenge is there than to take the affections of a man away from another woman?

The problems usually begin once the “prize” from the challenge is taken home. Enjoying cleaning up the clothes that never quite make it into the hamper, ladies? How about his sudden memory lapse concerning the promises he made concerning your future together? And are you beginning to suspect he really isn’t working late every Friday night (like he told his wife while sneaking around with you)?

The thing about challenges is: once they’re over was all the effort really worth it? Did you really win something of value? Or, is that brass ring beginning to look a little tarnished already?

He Isn’t Happy With His Wife

He’s miserable in his marriage. His wife’s a shrew who doesn’t understand him. Of course, your information is coming from a most reliable source. If he says he’s unhappy, clearly it’s the truth. If he says she’s the reason for it, what more do you need to hear? Why on earth would your married boyfriend lie to you?

Just remember, if you’re lucky enough to become his next missus, your singular goal and mission in life is to make him utterly, deliriously, and supremely happy.

That way, he’ll never have any reason to tell the “truth” to another woman about you.

He Loves Me

The day he uttered those three little words, that settled it. Love conquered all.

You didn’t intend to fall in love. Yes, you knew he was married, but you never intended to take someone’s husband and father away. It wasn’t planned. It just happened.

In a few years don’t be surprised if, or should we say when, your sweetie gets bitten by the love bug again. After all, just like you couldn’t control falling in love with him, neither will his latest love.

He’s just a loveable guy. He has a big heart and he enjoys sharing it.

Many single women find themselves attracted to married men. They find lots of reasons to justify having a relationship with someone who already has a legal and moral commitment to another.

Warning to Single Women About Married Men

Many enjoy the element of danger and intrigue in having a forbidden relationship. Some women believe they are with someone whose marriage would have ended with or without their involvement sooner or later.

However, single women who enter into alliances with married men need to remember one thing: most relationships built on a foundation of lies and deceit will usually topple. Research shows more than 70% of all marriages end due to infidelity or cheating allegations.

Yes, your relationship might be the one which defies the odds. Your marriage may even be the exception to the rule. However, don’t be dismayed, if statistically – you aren’t.

Advice From Twitter for Girlfriends Who Ask, Am I the Other Woman?

How can you tell if your man is cheating on you? That’s what Side Chick Awareness is all about. The answers given by Twitter users are mainly funny, sometimes angry, and sometimes sad.

All of the fears about infidelity – getting caught, being cheated on, being the “other woman” without knowing it, or having an unfaithful husband – are serious and painful. But comedians have known for centuries that there’s also a funny side to the situation. It makes great material for Twitter.com, a social networking website where people publicly exchange messages of up to 140 characters long.

What Women Say About Being the Other Woman

The main theme of what Twitter users identify as #sidechickawareness is secrecy on the man’s part. He clearly doesn’t want anyone to know he has more than one woman in his life. Some of the Twitter posters are fully Side Chick Aware, but others need lessons, so people have been giving each other many helpful hints.

In these quotes from Twitter, some of the language has been edited to make it more readable and in a few cases, less likely to offend. On Twitter, the @ symbol is used before a person’s screen name and the # symbol helps with indexing. People can search the site for #sidechickawareness and instantly find all the related posts that contain it.

Some clues from other women to know if you are a side chick:

@skhan813: “homeboy makes you drop off food for him but it ends up looking like a drug deal #sidechickawareness”

@PiNKissableLiPS: “#sidechickawareness is when your phone calls get ignored cause he be with wifey.”

@IamSpectacular: “#sidechickawareness if you find an empty condom box, and yall don’t even use condoms.”

It’s possible that the Side Chick’s relationship could be as intense as the man’s marriage (to the Main). Both these posts suggest some family ties.

@pjsocomplicated quoting @B_McQ quoting @LadyE8806: “#sidechickawareness… Just cuz you have a baby by him does NOT make u the main!”

@tdothoney: “#sidechickawareness His kid callin me Mommy by accident.”

What Women Say About Men Who Have a Side Chick

Opinions, almost all from women, suggest that the Main can be either fearful and worried about whether there is a Side Chick, or the Main can confidently assume there is but that the Side Chick isn’t a threat.

Example of a Main who thinks Side Chicks are going to be the ultimate losers:

@LOcourtVE: “Lesson to women who prey on married men. 75% stay with their wives. Find someone else!!!<#sidechickawareness”.

What Men Say About Their Side Chicks

The men in the #sidechickawareness discussion are mainly putting forward the cool dude image and treating the whole angst-ridden “is he cheating on me” question like a game. Much of this is written in the ironic tone typical of Twitter, for example:

@JeffreyRipper: “Edamame is my #sidechick. She has #sidechickawarenss and knows how to stay in her lane.”

@MaggDaddy: “If I bring you to the house and I tell you, ‘Just run downstairs I’ll be there in a minute’, you need #sidechickawareness.”

Approaching Twitter more analytically and assessing the social commentary made by the whole #sidechickawareness discussion, is this post:

@hjules: “Only on twitter or only in today’s world will WOMAN tell off the mistresses for not having #sidechickawareness. Strange.”

What Everyone Says About Tiger Woods

A polite translation of the commentary on Tiger Woods is that he would have been unwise to phone his alleged girlfriend and leave an incriminating voice mail, a recording of which (it is claimed) has been widely published. Here’s how one man summed up the common opinion:

@DCruz215: “U like the only [man] on the EARTH named Tiger. Aint u supposed to try and hide [extra-marital affairs]? Don’t use your real name! #sidechickawareness”

Whether he had an affair or not, and whether the phone message is authentic or not, the Tiger Woods story and all the rumours around it are going to be a footnote in sports history before long, but the phenomenon of marital infidelity will never end. Sociologists of the future will have plenty of information about early twenty-first century dating and marriage if they choose to look up and analyze #sidechickawareness.